“I’ve always had to put my work first to get ahead. Relationships have needed to come second, but it can feel lonely at times.”

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“I don’t know why when everything else is going so well in my life, that I struggle with finding someone to settle down with. It would be amazing to have someone to come home to.”

“I can’t understand why I keep getting messed around by women, when I’m so confident and capable at work.”


Does any of this sound familiar? It might feel like you’re the only one who is successful at work but who struggles with their personal relationships, but trust me, you’re not.

And it makes sense that the two aren’t easily compatible. If you’re a high flyer and have always pushed yourself at work, then it’s understandable that making time for love hasn’t always been possible.

How can you choose between going on a date or staying late to work on that important pitch?

How can you choose between getting back early for supper at home with a partner when you’re under pressure to take clients out?

How can you make time easily for someone else when there just isn’t time for yourself somedays?


Even if you feel you have a choice between work and a love life, it can be incredibly difficult to make that choice. High flying professionals are often wildly successful because they are incredibly driven. Driven by a fear of failure. Driven by a need to achieve all their goals. Driven to repair feelings of not being good enough.


And so making alternative choices can feel impossible.


However there is a cost to all that drive. I work with alot of highly successful, capable clients who struggle when they reach their goals and get to the top of their career, and find that they don’t have someone to share their achievements with. It can feel lonely at the top.


If this sounds like you, perhaps you can take a moment to work out what is driving you to achieve?

  • What does success look like for you?
  • What areas of your life also deserve your time and attention?
  • What do you want your life to stand for?

Working out our values can be a really… well valuable… way to help us work out where we need to put more of our energy. If right now, personal achievement or financial stability is high up on your value list, then it makes sense for work to take priority.

However sometimes we need to reassess our values and update them. Maybe personal achievement was a key value 5 years ago, but perhaps connection or wellbeing is more important to you now?

If this is the case, what do you need to change about your life to bring it inline with your actual values, as they are right now?

Living a life that is not in line with our values can stire up a sense of disatisfaction and sadness, known as cognitive dissonance. Living this way for too long can have a serious impact on our mental health.

So why don’t you ask yourself:

“What do I want my life to stand for? What values do I want to prioritise right now?”

and give yourself permission to make some changes.

I’d love to hear from you and work together to make these changes.

Get in touch today.