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How to Talk to your Partner about Sex
Sexual issues are one of the most common reasons why couples present for Relationship Counselling. This is often because talking about physical intimacy can be really difficult for couples to do without support, and we don’t always know where to start. However the longer worries about sex are left, the bigger those issues can become.… Read more
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Holding your Boundaries in Relationships
It can be hard to know how to hold and keep appropriate boundaries in relationships. Let me tell you 2 stories…(not based on any specific individuals but accumulated from my experience of clinical work) Susan is 35 years old. She comes with her partner Craig for couple therapy, and talks about her unhappiness in the… Read more
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5 Top Ways to Communicate Better in your Relationships
Why can’t I talk to my boyfriend? We can’t stop arguing. He doesn’t seem to understand what it’s like for me. How can I understand what my girlfriend is thinking? How can I make my wife happy? How do I improve our Sex Life? These are the statements I hear my couple counselling and relationship… Read more
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What is an Initial Assessment Session? 6 Things to Expect when Meeting a Relationship Counsellor for the first time
It can be daunting to book and attend your first session with a Counsellor. It can feel particularly anxious when meeting a Relationship Therapist as there often seems to be an air of mystery about this specialist area of psychotherapy. Read below to find out a little bit more about what to expect in your… Read more
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The Top 5 Ways COVID has affected Relationships
WOW! Well lets just say it’s been a busy year. Last January, I don’t think we could have predicted how the following 12 months would be for us all, and taking time to reflect on our experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic is an important part of processing things. One of the main things that has… Read more
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Is a post Lockdown “Relationship Reckoning” coming?
I’ve been reading and hearing a lot about how many couples are struggling in their relationships during lockdown. As I mentioned in my last blog, we aren’t meant to exist like this; it’s a highly unusual situation for us to be so isolated, with only our partner and children for company. And ultimately this puts… Read more
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Love in Lockdown- how to have difficult conversations with your partner
So here we are, nearly 2 months into lockdown. Somehow things feel a little easier, as we have got used to the strict rules and regulations around our lives, but also we are struggling more than ever with being apart from our friends, families, workplaces, social lives, hobbies and distractions. The truth is, we are… Read more
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Giving your partner some space – surviving lockdown with your relationship intact
Lockdown isn’t easy for anyone. And it can quickly take its toll even on healthy relationships. Elinor uses her 30 mins of exercise to discuss one way of how to look after your relationship when your usual couple activities and ways of coping are reduced.
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Do we have to be grateful, all the time?
On my 30 minutes allocated activity time today, I walked my dog on one of the beautiful routes that exist in this part of Hampshire. The sun was shining, there were flowers and colour everywhere, even the dog was behaving for once! And I felt so grateful. So grateful that I get to live in… Read more
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When Two becomes Three: Your Relationship After Baby
I was recently asked to be a Guest Editor for the Night Feed App (https://thenightfeed.uk) and write an article for them about maintaining and improving your relationship after your first baby arrives. If you don’t have the Night Feed App already, they provide a funny, insightful, informative way of surviving being awake at all strange… Read more
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Looking for sunshine through all the storm clouds: how to tackle Confirmation Bias in your relationship
Storm Ciara, Storm Dennis, and apparently now Storm Jorge. It feels like it hasn’t stopped raining recently round here. It’s easy to feel like Spring sunshine is never going to arrive, and that our roads will be waterlogged and we’ll be sporting our raincoats forever. It’s the same in our relationships. When things feel bad,… Read more
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Is it ever too late for relationship counselling?
Many couples wonder whether they have left it ‘too late’ before seeking help from a professional. Is it possible to get past the point of ‘no return’? Is there any way back? How do you know when is the best time to seek counselling? Here are a few pointers to consider if you’re wondering if… Read more
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Proud to be Part of Overton Business Association!
Offering a local counselling service, for local clients has always been a big part of my motivation to start Hampshire Relationship Counselling. I started this by offering counselling sessions in the heart of Overton village at Wessex Business Services ( http://wessexbusinessservices.co.uk), and from February 2020 I’ll be offering my relationship therapy and couple counselling services… Read more
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New year, new who? 5 things to try when your relationship has got the January Blues.
Happy New Year! Or was it? There is a big spike in couples seeking relationship therapy after the festive period is finished. The combination of financial pressures, visiting inlaws, being trapped indoors and eating and drinking too much can lead to a significant amount of stress. And when stress mounts, we are mostly likely to… Read more
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What is Premarital Therapy? 5 reasons why you might want to consider counselling before marriage
There has been lots in the media recently about the rise of counselling for couples due to or thinking about getting married. This counselling has been termed as “premarital therapy”, and is one of the biggest growing trends in the counselling world. This article in the Guardian provides some accounts of those who have had… Read more
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How to reduce the “mental load”. 5 things to try.
At this time of year especially, the juggle and pressure of all the things on a “To Do” list can feel unbearable. I first heard the term “Mental Load” In this rather amazing cartoon which you can read here . However I don’t think that this is solely women or parents who carry the mental… Read more
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How Do I Stop Arguing With my Partner? 5 Ideas to Try
Arguments can be upsetting and exhausting for everyone. However there are a few ways that you can try and resolve difficulties before they turn into argument. Have a safe word. If you notice that your discussion is becoming heated, agree to have a safe word that you can say to get ‘Time Out’. It can… Read more
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How Do You Know if You Need Marriage Or Relationship Counselling? 8 Common Reasons why Couples Come for Therapy.
There’s no easy answer to this one. However many clients ask me this in the first session. How do you know if you need to see a therapist for relationship or sexual difficulties? Here’s a list of 8 reasons why it might be helpful to you. Of course this list could be endless; there is… Read more
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What is an Initial Assessment? 6 things to Expect when Meeting with a Relationship Counsellor for the First Time.
It can be daunting to book and attend your first session with a Counsellor. It can feel particularly anxious when meeting a Relationship Therapist as there often seems to be an air of mystery about this specialist area of psychotherapy. Read below to find out a little bit more about what to expect in your… Read more
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5 Reasons Why Single People Can Have Relationship Therapy Too
Many people think that Relationship Counselling or Relationship Therapy is just for couples. It’s not true! This specialist form of therapy can be just as beneficial to single individuals. Read on to find out why you should consider relationship counselling even if you’re not currently in a relationship…. It can support you after a difficult… Read more
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