Holding your Boundaries in Relationships

It can be hard to know how to hold and keep appropriate boundaries in relationships. Let me tell you 2 stories…(not based on any specific individuals but accumulated from my experience of clinical work) Susan is 35 years old. She comes with her partner Craig for couple therapy, and talks about her unhappiness in theContinue reading “Holding your Boundaries in Relationships”

5 Top Ways to Communicate Better in your Relationships

Why can’t I talk to my boyfriend? We can’t stop arguing. He doesn’t seem to understand what it’s like for me. How can I understand what my girlfriend is thinking? How can I make my wife happy? How do I improve our Sex Life? These are the statements I hear my couple counselling and relationshipContinue reading “5 Top Ways to Communicate Better in your Relationships”

What is an Initial Assessment Session? 6 Things to Expect when Meeting a Relationship Counsellor for the first time

It can be daunting to book and attend your first session with a Counsellor. It can feel particularly anxious when meeting a Relationship Therapist as there often seems to be an air of mystery about this specialist area of psychotherapy. Read below to find out a little bit more about what to expect in yourContinue reading “What is an Initial Assessment Session? 6 Things to Expect when Meeting a Relationship Counsellor for the first time”

The Top 5 Ways COVID has affected Relationships

WOW! Well lets just say it’s been a busy year. Last January, I don’t think we could have predicted how the following 12 months would be for us all, and taking time to reflect on our experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic is an important part of processing things. One of the main things that hasContinue reading “The Top 5 Ways COVID has affected Relationships”

Is a post Lockdown “Relationship Reckoning” coming?

I’ve been reading and hearing a lot about how many couples are struggling in their relationships during lockdown. As I mentioned in my last blog, we aren’t meant to exist like this; it’s a highly unusual situation for us to be so isolated, with only our partner and children for company. And ultimately this putsContinue reading “Is a post Lockdown “Relationship Reckoning” coming?”

Love in Lockdown- how to have difficult conversations with your partner

So here we are, nearly 2 months into lockdown. Somehow things feel a little easier, as we have got used to the strict rules and regulations around our lives, but also we are struggling more than ever with being apart from our friends, families, workplaces, social lives, hobbies and distractions. The truth is, we areContinue reading “Love in Lockdown- how to have difficult conversations with your partner”

Giving your partner some space – surviving lockdown with your relationship intact

Lockdown isn’t easy for anyone. And it can quickly take its toll even on healthy relationships. Elinor uses her 30 mins of exercise to discuss one way of how to look after your relationship when your usual couple activities and ways of coping are reduced.

Do we have to be grateful, all the time?

On my 30 minutes allocated activity time today, I walked my dog on one of the beautiful routes that exist in this part of Hampshire. The sun was shining, there were flowers and colour everywhere, even the dog was behaving for once! And I felt so grateful. So grateful that I get to live inContinue reading “Do we have to be grateful, all the time?”

When Two becomes Three: Your Relationship After Baby

I was recently asked to be a Guest Editor for the Night Feed App (https://thenightfeed.uk) and write an article for them about maintaining and improving your relationship after your first baby arrives. If you don’t have the Night Feed App already, they provide a funny, insightful, informative way of surviving being awake at all strangeContinue reading “When Two becomes Three: Your Relationship After Baby”

Looking for sunshine through all the storm clouds: how to tackle Confirmation Bias in your relationship

Storm Ciara, Storm Dennis, and apparently now Storm Jorge. It feels like it hasn’t stopped raining recently round here. It’s easy to feel like Spring sunshine is never going to arrive, and that our roads will be waterlogged and we’ll be sporting our raincoats forever. It’s the same in our relationships. When things feel bad,Continue reading “Looking for sunshine through all the storm clouds: how to tackle Confirmation Bias in your relationship”