Sexual problems often break relationships apart.
Your partner not wanting sex leaves you feeling rejected.
Unreliable erections can make you feel less of a man.
Having low desire can make you feel pressured and stressed.
Pain during sex can lead you to avoid all intimacy.
It doesnt have to be this way.
As a Psychosexual Therapist, I help clients with Psychosexual difficulties overcome intimacy problems and build a pleasurable, playful relationship with their bodies.
It can be difficult to know where to start when seeking help for a sexual issue. Many people feel ashamed of their sexual difficulties, or worry about being judged. Other people may feel embarrassed about not knowing the right words for things, or what is ‘normal’.
I work from a sex positive perspective, where I celebrate everyone’s personal choice to have the sex life that they would like to have. For some people, this may be having very little sex or no sex at all, and for other it may be seeking sexual intimacy in new ways. Everyone is different, and there is no right or wrong way to have a sex life. It is your right to choose.
I work at your pace, and focus on what you are comfortable discussing. In my 8 session model however I often see clients noticing positive change within a few sessions. I may suggest practical and behavioural self-help exercises that empower you and allow you to continue your work between sessions.
Furthermore, I try to offer the chance to think about your sex life in a new light, away from society’s norms and messaging, and I provide sex education where helpful.
I am here to help support you as you explore your own sexuality and deepen your understanding of what you want, and importantly don’t want, in your sexual future. I work with clients of all sexual orientations, gender identifications and cultural beliefs.
Psychosexual Therapy is a talking therapy and I will never ask you to remove your clothes or show me parts of your body. Any suggested exercises are for you to do at home, in between sessions.
I work with a range of sexual themes, which may include:
- Worries around desire or a discrepancy between high/low sexual interest levels
- Rapid or delayed ejaculation
- Pain during penetration
- Finding it difficult to become aroused or lubricated
- Compulsive sexual behaviour
- Loss of erections
- Reducing anxiety around sex
- Questions or worries around sexual orientation
- Historical sexual abuse or assault
- Birth trauma and post natal healing
- Worries about sexual fantasy and/or kinks
- Exploring gender diversity issues, including supporting non binary and trans clients throughout their personal journeys
- Religious and cultural messages around sex
- Open and non monogamous relationships
- Polyamory and multiple partner relationships
- Voluntary and involuntary celibacy
- Sexual problems due to cultural, socio-economic or political factors
- The impact of disability, mental health problems or medication on sex
- Exploring asexuality
- Porn issues
“Elinor is very kind and approachable. She gave us practical skills and tools we can use for many years to come”
Psychosexual Client Feedback, 2022
Registered and Accredited Member of the National Counselling Society
Member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists
WHY WORK WITH ME?
I know there are alot of therapists and coaches out there. Here’s what sets me apart.
I am a qualified Relationship and Psychosexual Therapist, the result of over 9 years of study.
15+ years of experience
I’ve been working in therapy and mental health my whole career. I understand people.
I believe in you
I’m passionate about our ability to adapt and thrive, no matter what life throws at us.
A pragmatic, human approach
I’m warm and an excellent listener. But I’m not going to sit there silently. I’m here to empower and help you reach your goals.
Excellent Client Satisfaction
97% of my clients felt our work helped them with their difficulties.
Processing the past
My therapy training means I can support you with your past difficulties or trauma as well as helping you reach your future goals.