It can be hard to know how to hold and keep appropriate boundaries in relationships. Let me tell you 2 stories…(not based on any specific individuals but accumulated from my experience of clinical work) Susan is 35 years old. She comes with her partner Craig for couple therapy, and talks about her unhappiness in theContinue reading “Holding your Boundaries in Relationships”
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Is a post Lockdown “Relationship Reckoning” coming?
I’ve been reading and hearing a lot about how many couples are struggling in their relationships during lockdown. As I mentioned in my last blog, we aren’t meant to exist like this; it’s a highly unusual situation for us to be so isolated, with only our partner and children for company. And ultimately this putsContinue reading “Is a post Lockdown “Relationship Reckoning” coming?”
Love in Lockdown- how to have difficult conversations with your partner
So here we are, nearly 2 months into lockdown. Somehow things feel a little easier, as we have got used to the strict rules and regulations around our lives, but also we are struggling more than ever with being apart from our friends, families, workplaces, social lives, hobbies and distractions. The truth is, we areContinue reading “Love in Lockdown- how to have difficult conversations with your partner”
Is it ever too late for relationship counselling?
Many couples wonder whether they have left it ‘too late’ before seeking help from a professional. Is it possible to get past the point of ‘no return’? Is there any way back? How do you know when is the best time to seek counselling? Here are a few pointers to consider if you’re wondering ifContinue reading “Is it ever too late for relationship counselling?”
What is Premarital Therapy? 5 reasons why you might want to consider counselling before marriage
There has been lots in the media recently about the rise of counselling for couples due to or thinking about getting married. This counselling has been termed as “premarital therapy”, and is one of the biggest growing trends in the counselling world. This article in the Guardian provides some accounts of those who have hadContinue reading “What is Premarital Therapy? 5 reasons why you might want to consider counselling before marriage”
How Do I Stop Arguing With my Partner? 5 Ideas to Try
Arguments can be upsetting and exhausting for everyone. However there are a few ways that you can try and resolve difficulties before they turn into argument. Have a safe word. If you notice that your discussion is becoming heated, agree to have a safe word that you can say to get ‘Time Out’. It canContinue reading “How Do I Stop Arguing With my Partner? 5 Ideas to Try”
How to Talk to your Partner about Sex
Sexual issues are one of the most common reasons why couples present for Relationship Counselling. This is often because talking about physical intimacy can be really difficult for couples to do without support, and we don’t always know where to start. However the longer worries about sex are left, the bigger those issues can become.Continue reading “How to Talk to your Partner about Sex”
How Do You Know if You Need Marriage Or Relationship Counselling? 8 Common Reasons why Couples Come for Therapy.
There’s no easy answer to this one. However many clients ask me this in the first session. How do you know if you need to see a therapist for relationship or sexual difficulties? Here’s a list of 8 reasons why it might be helpful to you. Of course this list could be endless; there isContinue reading “How Do You Know if You Need Marriage Or Relationship Counselling? 8 Common Reasons why Couples Come for Therapy.”
What is an Initial Assessment? 6 things to Expect when Meeting with a Relationship Counsellor for the First Time.
It can be daunting to book and attend your first session with a Counsellor. It can feel particularly anxious when meeting a Relationship Therapist as there often seems to be an air of mystery about this specialist area of psychotherapy. Read below to find out a little bit more about what to expect in yourContinue reading “What is an Initial Assessment? 6 things to Expect when Meeting with a Relationship Counsellor for the First Time.”
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